A love that is more than love....
This week we thrived with a lot of extra cuddles because they were needed. Well, tbh we are huggers and cuddlers over here. We hug and cuddle for no reason. It’s our love language. If there is one thing that I have learned in this journey is that mothering with love is the only way I want to mother. My children have also learned that cuddles/hugs communicate love. We all need it, but particularly younger children need to be cuddled and hugged A LOT. They need physical touch & comfort. They need a safe place, and who else but their parents to give them that. I know not every parent finds physical affection easy. I understand that, and perhaps it’s because it wasn’t part of your childhood, but it doesn’t mean it can’t be part of your children’s childhood. Our generation needs to continue breaking these chains and raise our little humans with more love and affection. We need to be determined to focus on loving them and them actually seeing our love. My feelings for my children will always be clear because I don’t ever want them to assume they’re loved. I want them to know they are. I know some mothers and fathers struggle to give lots of hugs and cuddles. I’ll never forget when my dad told me how his dad had never hugged him. I remember wanting to cry. He also told me how much he admired that Eddie kissed Liam in the mouth and told him he loved him often. I also admire that from my husband. But the original admiration goes to my father in law because he build that foundation with him. Expressing feelings when you didn’t grow up with vulnerability will be hard, but I truly believe that true vulnerability is the key to a real connection. We need that connection with our children and they need that connection with us. Here’s my advice: no matter how awkward it might feel, do it anyways, and do it often. Let’s keep on loving our children with a love that is more than love.